Ready and Waiting for Someday to come…

I want nothing more right now then to get in my car and just drive. Get away for a full week, clear my head, and live in the moment with no expectations, and no plans. 

One day I will. One day, my husband and I will take a week off of work, pack up our truck, and we will just drive. Drive with no destination, no travel arrangements, and no expectations. This is the goal. This is my dream right now. 

If you can do it, GO! Drive away, be spontaneous and optimistic! Leave all your stress and worries behind you and live freely! Then, blog about your experience when you come back. Go on my behalf. 

I’m heading away for the weekend, but I’m not going very far and not for very long. I can’t afford a real vacation and are friends and family just don’t understand. It’s hard to be in love with traveling, and be the only one who can’t afford to go anywhere. I know I shouldn’t worry what other people think, but their comments have bothered me. But, there’s always someday…

Someday before or after everyone else is tied down I will be doing everything, I will be going everywhere, buying nice things, redesigning my home, and redefining what happiness means. That day will come, someday.

Someday…maybe soon? See we took a risk, my husband took a pay cut to help start a new business, and three years later that business hasn’t taken off. But, he’s the smartest person I know, and beyond his years now in experience. It’s time for him to start hunting. It’s time to see what the world has in store for us. It’s a stressful time, but we are equipped to handle the journey. I’m going to keep him positive, and help him find the path that’s right for him. He has always said that someday we will be better off, doing better then everyone else. Some days I don’t believe him. But, I believe in him, I believe in me, and in our determination to work hard and above all be happy. I truly believe some day will come where we will be happier then ever before. 

 

Living Life as an Introvert

I’ve never actually wrote a blog post about being an introvert although I’ve mentioned it in past blog posts that I am. This last week it has been on my mind a lot. With summer parties and constant plans with friends and family I’ve found my energy being drained both mentally and physically more often then usual. I’ve mentioned my husband is an introvert as well, so it definitely helps to have someone who feels the same way.

I went to a party on Sunday and even before I got there I was drained. I found it harder to stay interested in most of what people were talking about, and even harder to contribute anything, and even harder to act like I was happy to be there. Don’t get me wrong, if I hadn’t had all my energy drained from me the last few days I probably would of enjoyed the time that I was there. But, this was not the case. I looked around and realized how many extroverts surrounded me and suddenly felt out of place. If I didn’t act normal I knew someone would assume something was wrong. I’m usually really good at giving myself enough time away from people, but this time was unavoidable. This time I felt drained physically and mentally for the rest of the day.

As I mentioned in a previous post my Mom is the biggest extrovert I know (she was there too). She never realized I was different from her and acted like there was something wrong with me when I lived with her. But, I always knew there was something wrong with her. I felt trapped and suffocated. She was always draining all my energy, never giving me enough time alone no matter what I said or how loud I screamed. I didn’t explain the whole introvert/extrovert thing at the time I lived with her, but it doesn’t matter. You shouldn’t need psychology for someone to respect that you need time alone or more privacy and independence. Well, I just recently ran across an article that explains how some extroverts  may never really understand introverts, and I knew right away that was my Mom. I always figured someday maybe I would try and explain to her how horrible she was to live with. But, now I’m in such a positive place and I have the freedom to only be around the people I want to for as long as I want to. So, it’s pointless. It would be like trying to explain to a blind man what the color red looks like. Not to mention she is just one of those people who selfishly believes they are right about everything, and there’s only one right way to do things. AKA controlling and manipulative.

I’m proud of myself for being nothing like my parents! I’m proud of myself for falling in love with all the things that they didn’t accept about me. I’m proud of myself for becoming smarter and wiser than them about the world and how to treat people. I’m becoming more understanding of other people and less judgmental. I’m happy to be an introvert and be introspective about life. I’m happy to be me.

The Journey Toward Greater Relaxation in Life

I’m on a path of growth. I seek to learn more about life, improve myself, have a greater understanding of who I am and who I want to be. While also taking advantage of any opportunities that come my way. My goal is to increase my happiness now and into the future. To look back without any regrets. This is the journey that I share with you.

If you read my last post: you know that I’m working on improving my luck over the next month. I won’t be sharing what’s all involved in that, but I am sharing this one thing. This is the thing I’m most interested in incorporating into my life over the next month. It’s the art of relaxation.

In two different sub-principles from the luck book it mentions meditation (non-religious mediation). Now I’ve always been somewhat of a skeptic about meditation and I understand if you are too. I’m not even suggesting you try it. Just let me tell you what I’ve learned about it. I’ve been reading a lot of articles and even books lately and it seems to magically appear as an answer to wide variety of things. First, it’s suppose to help with stress. Who doesn’t want to reduce their stress? Secondly, many successful people meditate and agree it’s helped them as a professional. Many lucky people meditate too!  It’s suppose to help you increase your intuition which helps you to make better choices by listening to your gut feelings. Lastly, it’s suppose to help you have a more relaxed attitude toward life. These are the reasons I’m most interested in meditation. But, there are other things it can help with including improving your health.

In “The Luck Factor” it provides a simple relaxation exercise to use whenever your feeling stressed. I’m making in effort to do that exercise several times a week for 20 minutes, and so far I’ve found it to be very helpful to me. I also stumbled across a book on meditation and mindfullness that captivated me after reading just one page. It’s a national bestseller. I’ve just started reading it, and although some of the concepts in it I can’t quite grasp, I love how it has me thinking about life from an entirely new perspective. Among other things it teaches you how to incorporate relaxation techniques into your busy life without taking up too much of your time. It teaches you how to use relaxation techniques even when your in the middle of chores or other activities.

I just learned the meaning of mindfullness. Mindfullness is the intentional, accepting and non-judgmental focus of one’s attention on the emotions, thoughts and sensations occurring in the present moment. It mentions in the book that we spend too much time thinking about the past and the future instead of focusing on the present moment.

I’m very excited for my journey toward greater relaxation, while also learning to live in the present moment.

Are you living the life of a lucky person?

I don’t consider myself lucky or unlucky, but now I understand exactly where I rate on the scale of luck, and now I know how I can improve my luck! If you thought that “we create or own luck in life” you were right! 

I just finished the book called “The Luck Factor” by Dr. Richard Wiseman. The book teaches you how to lead a luckier life with four essential principles. It’s a book based on scientific research that evaluates the ways in which luck and unlucky people think and behave. The author did extensive psychological testing on both lucky and unlucky people.

Throughout the book you are given questionnaires and exercises to evaluate your own level of luck. Each principle has 2-4 subprinciples and is explained in great detail with the research to back it up. At the end of the book, you learn that the unlucky and lucky people mentioned, increased their luck in life, and now lead happier lives after following the four principles outlined in the book. You are also given exercises to do in order to increase your own level of luck, and are told to follow the four principles for a whole month. 

I don’t necessarily consider myself lucky or unlucky, because that’s not how I view life anymore. At least not conscientiously. I understand that I create my own luck. But, when I was younger I would have most definitely classified myself as unlucky. Now, I consider myself “neutral” and after taking the questionnaires in the book I am classified as “neutral.” Not really lucky, but not really unlucky.

I’m past living the life of an unlucky person, and I’m ready to move beyond neutral, and consider myself lucky! It will be hard to view things as lucky, because I usually don’t consider things as either unlucky or lucky. However, if I increase my level of happiness and satisfaction with life then I will have definitely succeeded. 

I’m on a quest to increase my luck over the next month starting tomorrow morning. In order to commit to following the principles outlined in the book I have created sheet of exercises that I plan to carry with me for the next month. I will reevaluate my luck score at the end of the month. I then plan on writing a follow up blog post in a month, and I will let you know whether I have succeeded in increasing my level of luck! 

Wish me luck! Haha! 

Here is a link to more information on this book: http://www.richardwiseman.com/resources/The_Luck_Factor.pdf  If you are interested in purchasing it, I was able to get a used version on Amazon and it cost me less than $8.00 with shipping.