The Key to Happiness Discovering/Creating You and Embracing It

I sincerely believe the key to true happiness is truly knowing who you are and then embracing it. I don’t think that’s an easy task for some people. It hasn’t been for me. If you read my last blog “Accepting Who You Are” then you know I’ve struggled with it myself. There are so many things that can get in the way including: money, time, tragedies, people who have a negative influence on you and feelings of being lost or misunderstood etc… As I mentioned previously we have control over two things in our life: our thoughts and our actions. We have the power over our happiness. We can’t base it around what we have and what we don’t have. I found this quote awhile back and I found it really helped me.

“Being happy doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. It means that you’ve decided to look beyond the imperfections.” ― Gerard Way

I always thought that I would be happy when I had all these material possessions and then I would gain them, but still feel empty. Then I would find something new I needed to have to be happy. But, nothing made a significant change in my happiness.

I knew someone who was diagnosed with cancer at the young age of 23 and he fought it and it just kept coming back like 3 or 4 times. Doctors’ told him to give up, but he refused. He didn’t care about all the pain he had to suffer through every day he just wanted to live so badly it didn’t matter. He made a huge influence on so many people’s lives due to his will to live and be happy despite the hand he was dealt.

Once you realize you’re the only one who has power over your happiness the next step is to discover who you are and create the person you want to be. Take some time alone and think about what you love most in your life. Don’t just think it, write it all down. Write what you’re passionate about; write what you love about yourself, moments in your life you’re proud of, successes, write down your hobbies and your interests. When you feel bad about yourself and you’re having a crumby day, it will help to go back and read it. I’ve done it myself. You can also come up with a list of inspirational quotes. We can’t be happy all the time, but to feel happy most of the time is an excellent goal to have.

If you haven’t already you should also take the Brigg’s and Myers personality test: Read the in-depth descriptions of your personality to make sure it’s accurate. You would be surprised how much it helps. I also recommend you read StrengthFinder 2.0 by Tom Rath. Make sure you get a new copy because otherwise you won’t be able to take the test that’s included. This will help show you your strengths and learn how to apply them.


You have the power to create the best version of yourself!

When you truly understand who you are and what your strengths are then to be truly happy you need to take action! Embrace it. This might involve risks or even doing things outside of your comfort zone. It all depends on what your goals are. But, every day you should do one thing that makes you happy. Find hobbies or activities you can enjoy.

When you know who you are and your happy with yourself you will have a positive influence on the people around you. If you’ve noticed unhappy people often come off as being selfish and seem jealous. You need to surround yourself with positive people and remove any negative people from your life who refuse to change.

Love, is also essential to be truly happy. Love of friends, family or a significant other. It’s important that we listen to other people’s problems and show that we care because otherwise they won’t listen to us in return. To be happy you must also seek to make others happy.

Do you agree? What are your thoughts?


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