Accepting Who You Are

I’ve been struggling with accepting who I am all my life. As a shy sensitive introvert I’ve always felt out of place in this world. I’ve never felt like I fit in. I had little to no self-esteem when I was growing up, made worse by the fact that people didn’t understand me. I’m a very private person and my parents never gave me the space I needed. I often felt trapped. If you read my “Solving Your Life Puzzle” post I touch more on this and my difficult childhood.

I always felt like I had such a complex personality and was often confused by my own emotions. When I would get angry at someone I would struggle on whether to share my feelings or ignore them. I was conflicted on how to handle different aspects of my life. I’ve also had a hard time making decisions. I’m completely driven by my emotions and worry how my decisions will reflect my future emotions.

When I took psychology in high school I learned that I operate equally with both my left brain and my right brain. Learning this helped me to realize why I was so confused by my own personality. I also took the Briggs and Myers personality test and learned that I’m an INFJ. I remember when I walked up to the teacher to hand in my test he said my personality type was very rare. I knew I was different, but I didn’t know what to do with it at the time. When I’m faced with the challenge of being me I often think about that moment. Just yesterday I ran across a blog of someone who is also an INFJ. I had never seen such a long description describing this personality type and I couldn’t believe how much it described me. I just had to write this post after seeing it. If you’re interested you can read more about INFJ’s on her blog:

Reading how I’m an INFJ and my personality type is the rarest kind of makes me feel special. After years of struggling with my self-confidence; these last few months I’ve finally started embracing who I am. I’ve always felt the pressure to change who I am to fit in and find a place in this world. I’m my biggest critic of myself and I’m often really hard on myself. I’m struggling right now because I know I should be doing other things right now, but all I want to do is write. I’ve ignored my drive to write for a long time and when I’m compelled to write it’s often when I’m busy doing something else. Like in high school I wrote poetry when I was suppose to be paying attention in class. But, I’ve learned that writing is a part of me. The problem is once I start I won’t stop or rest until all my words flow out of me. I can’t stand any interruptions because I know I might lose my train of thought.

What I’ve started to realize is there’s nothing more important than accepting who you are and being happy with it. I went to this networking event where a speaker said “You have control of only two things in your life and two things only! Your thoughts and your actions.” I’ve become a happier person through learning more about myself and accepting the bad with the good. The thing is we create the world we live in. The world is the way it is because we perceive it that way and because we take action in deciding how we want to live our lives.

I get so bored lately with my life and I want to change things, but the income isn’t there to do what I want. I’m trying to find a way to make money in this tough economy and I’m the most determined person I know, but yet I still struggle. Lately I find myself daydreaming about living a different life. Which upsets me but also makes me wonder what will really bring my spirit to life? What kind of career would make me excited to get out of bed every morning?

After writing this I’ve just come up with three more ideas on blog posts. I just can’t seem to stop my train of thought. I plan to write one on how to discover/create who you are and accept it as a follow up to this one.

That’s all for now. Hope to hear from you.


6 thoughts on “Accepting Who You Are

  1. It is always such a special moment reading the experience of other INFJ’s who have embraced their uniqueness. I think our purpose in life is to care and counsel in a world where love, understanding and depth are sometimes sorely lacking. Keep on writing! It truly is a gift.


  2. I can relate to almost everything you said. I also felt the pressure to change my personality to fit in, I thought that something was wrong with me. Only after I started to accept and embrace my personality I finally found out what happiness is. Accepting our uniqueness truly is the most important thing. Only when we are able to embrace who we are we can help others


  3. My God! I felt you said all what I felt all this time. Every single word. The best part of it is that you arrived to the conclusion that you have to accept yourself, we have to, and we want to, but we have never been allowed to. We are sensitive and complicated and perfectionists and different, and it’s fine. Let’s love ourselves, let’s be whoever we want to be. I forgot I wanted to be a writer too. People pressed me to don’t be one. They said it didn’t worth it. But it does. If, doing something, you are expressing the person you really are, then do whatever you want and need. Fellow, thank you for share this. You give me an impulse to write again, and accept me. Thank you.


    • Thank you so much for your comment! It feels good to hear that my post had an impact on you. I rarely know if my posts have an impact on anyone. But, either way I won’t stop writing and expressing myself and you shouldn’t either. I’m glad to hear that you are planning to write again and are accepting who you are.


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